Haukur recently started a relationship with Kalli who is considerably older than him. The relationship is new and exciting and Haukur is very much in love. Kalli is Haukur’s first boyfriend but Haukur is not yet ready to come out to his family.

Kalli has said to Haukur a few times that he does not look gay enough. Haukur is hurt by this but thinks that maybe Kalli is right. After a few months, they argue more often. Kalli goes on about how Haukur is not a real gay man since he has been in a relationship with a girl before and threatens to “out” Haukur.

Is this abuse?