Not respecting other people's boundaries is violence.

Many content creators on OnlyFans talk about subscribers pushing their boundaries a lot and justifying it by offering them money. Even though it is clearly stated in the descriptions what the boundaries are.

It's always okay to set clear boundaries and it's violence to force people to push their boundaries. Payment for this is coercion. People who ask others to move their boundaries know that, otherwise they wouldn't be offering payment to get people to do it.

Once someone has pushed the boundaries of the content creators so they do things they don't want to, creating that content will stop being enjoyable. Sexual activity stops being about fascination, connection to another people and enjoyment, and begins to revolve around sex as work that creates discomfort. This rubs off on all sexual activities, and it can be difficult to work your way back to enjoying.

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Stella has been posting content on OnlyFans for a few weeks. She is quite happy with her style and has gotten better at the technical aspect of creating content. She has over 100 subscribers... 

Stella has been posting content on OnlyFans for a few weeks. She is quite happy with her style and has gotten better at the technical aspect of creating content. She has over 100 subscribers so she has a decent income. Sometimes Stella gets a requests to make certain kind of content. The other day she got a request to take a video of herself licking a banana. She thought it was funny and not a big deal for the money she was offered. She did the video and even added a little by dressing the banana in a condom at the end, like the teacher did in sex education when she was in 9th grade.

Now this guy has sent another request but now wants her to make a video where she uses a banana like a dildo. The description of her page says that she doesn't show genitals in her videos. She doesn't like the idea, but he's offering twice as much money. Money that would be quite useful to have.

Stella

Is this abuse?