A guide for children who have experienced domestic abuse

Domestic abuse is when someone related or connected to you, like a parent, step-parent, adult sibling, or a guardian, hurts you or your family.

Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse doesn't necessarily have to happen at your home. It can also happen when you're traveling or in other places. Sometimes people who are involved live together, but they don't have to. The abuse can be many different things, for example, physical, sexual, or emotional. It is also abuse if you are forced to witness abuse in your home.

Get help

If someone in your family is being abusive towards you or someone else in the family, you should tell someone. Then you can get help. According to the law, adults should look after children and let child protective services know if something is wrong.

It's good to find an adult you feel comfortable talking to. If you want to talk to someone other than your family, you could talk to:

  • Your teacher
  • Someone at school, like a nurse, psychologist, or counselor
  • Your coach
  • Staff at the recreation center (félagsmiðstöð)

Help around the clock

  • You can always call 112 or use the online 112 chat to get help regarding abuse.
  • 1717 helpline and online chat. There you can talk in confidence about anything and get advice.

Relationship help for young people

Sjúkt spjall (Sick Chat) is an anonymous online chat for young people of all genders (under 25 years old) to discuss concerns about relationships, communication, or abuse.

„Can you let somebody know?“

It's enough to say this to someone you trust.

Tveir farsímar þar sem manneskjan í vinstri farsímanum teygir sig yfir til manneskjunnar í hægri farsímanum með regnhlíf. Rigningarský vomar yfir hægri farsímanum og manneskjunni þar sem er leið á svip.

Child protection services (Barnavernd)

At Child protection services, people work with helping children and families to make sure children feel good and are safe. The police and Child protection services work together to stop abuse and make sure children are safe.

The police always lets Child Protection Services know if there's a suspicion of abuse in a home where a child lives. A person from Child Protection Services will be with you through the whole process in the legal system to look after your rights and safety.

What happens when the police investigates the case?

The legal system is one term for the police, the prosecution (prosecutors or police chiefs), and the courts. When domestic abuse is reported to the police, an investigation takes place. Then, the prosecution decides whether the case will be sent to the courts.

When a child is involved in a case, a person from Child protection services always comes to look after the child.

Those who experience domestic abuse get a free lawyer called a legal rights protector. This person helps victims with their case in the legal system.

This guide tries to explain what happens in the legal system for children (under 18 years old).

1. The abuse is reported to the police

2. Differences between you and adults

3. Will the case go to court?

4. The Trial

5. The Verdict

6. After the verdict

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