What is harassment?

Online bullying and sharing photos without permission are not OK. It is called digital abuse when violence is enforced through a smartphone, computer, or social media. If you experience abusive behavior online, speak to someone you trust and get help.

Examples of abusive behavior

  • To tease someone or bully online because the person is different in some way.
  • To write offensive comments, for example about another person‘s looks or actions.
  • To share or threaten to share nude photos of another person without permission.
  • To receive sexual photos or messages you did not ask for.

Here is advice if photos of you are shared without permission or you feel violated online in any way. Online abuse is various so maybe not all points will apply.

  • This is not your fault. People often feel ashamed when a nude photo of them is shared online. Some feel like it‘s their fault. But you didn‘t do anything wrong, even if you sent the photo in the first place. You didn‘t ask to be put in this position.
  • Ask for the photo to be deleted. If you know the person who shared the photo, ask for it to be removed in your presence. If you don‘t know the person, write them a message. Point out that this act is illegal and ask for the photo to be deleted.
  • Check where it was shared. Was the photo shared on a friend‘s phone, in a closed Facebook group, or is it visible to everyone on Instagram? Google your name to see what information about you is visible online.
  • Store the evidence. If the person refuses to delete the content, take photos or screenshots of photos, videos, or text related to the incident. Then you have evidence of what happened. It is a good idea to ask friends or family to help with gathering evidence. They can be used to prove the violation and report it to social media or the police.
  • Report it to social media. Photos can spread quite fast, even if only 1 person shares the photos on their profile. Report it as soon as you can. It is important to explain the reason why the photo should be deleted. That could be reasons like this is a violation of your personal life, someone made a fake account in your name, or the nude photo violates the rules of social media.
  • Talk to an adult. It can be difficult or awkward to tell someone. However, problems tend to become easier to deal with when you talk about them out loud instead of carrying them alone. Therefore it is important to talk to an adult that you trust. It is your parent‘s duty to help you. Remember that your parents were also young once, so it‘s likely they will understand.

Is it Cyberbullying?

What is cyberbullying and how can you spot it? This video explains whether certain online behavior is or isn't cyberbullying. You will also learn tips about what you can do if you or someone you know is being cyberbullied.

What is cyberbullying and how can you spot it? English subtitles auto-generated.

Digital sexual abuse

Digital sexual abuse is to show or share nude photos of others without permission, send unwanted nude photos or, sexting (sending messages with sexual undertones). It can also be pressuring others to share sexual photographs, for example in exchange for money. It is also when nude photos or used to scare, threaten or blackmail money.

Digital sexual abuse is also when nude photos or used to scare, threaten or blackmail money. English subtitles auto-generated.

If someone asks you for a nude pic or sends you a nude pic that is not OK.

You can let them know that they are breaking the law by sending the appropriate message. You should also show an adult the message you got.

Children and teenagers

If you are a child or teenager, this is the right place to learn about communication, violence and what help is available.

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