Police have come

You have probably just been visited by the police or arrested for possible internet offences. Perhaps you thought this day might come and are thinking what is going to happen now that your behaviour is out in the open. If you have been troubled by your behaviour, maybe you feel a sense of relief that it is no longer a secret.

First reactions

You likely feel confused, scared or numb. You probably have questions about:

  • how this will affect your family and friends
  • the legal process and how long it might take
  • what might happen if there are media reports
  • what other people will think if or when they find out
  • what will happen next.


The investigation can sometimes take a long time. It is common for a year to take before a case goes to court. Be prepared for some frustration, uncertainty and worry during this period. But your life must continue in as a normal way as possible, so there is no need for you to abandon any plans you might have made, such as going on holiday and so on.


You may start to have all sorts of thoughts and feel depressed or hopeless. You may experience feelings of panic or even think about harming yourself or committing suicide. Such feelings are quite common. It is important that you find some help and support with these thoughts and feelings and begin the changes that will lead to a positive future, free from offending.

Your opportunity to get help is now

This can be a stressful time for you and your family as everyone struggles to cope with their worries.

What should you do next?

The first thing you should do is to contact Taktu skrefið that helps people who are worried about their sexual behaviour or have abused someone sexually. You can send them an email at taktuskrefid@taktuskrefid.is.

If you do not feel comfortable sending them an email or if your request is urgent, you can also contact the 112 webchat anonymously.


Taktu skrefið

Taktu skrefið (Take the step) is a group of psychologists that help people that are worried about their sexual behaviour or have sexually abused someone.


The Red Cross Helpline 1717 is a phone service and webchat for those who need someone to talk to in confidentiality. They are open 24 hours, and it's free to call.

Preventing sexual abuse

Sex must be built on respect and good communication where everyones desires are respected. Respecting the boundaries of others is fundamental in healthy relations.