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Physical force and threats

When anyone hurts you or threatens to hurt you, it is considered physical abuse. It doesn‘t matter whether there is physical harm. It is also considered physical abuse if someone refuses to provide for your physical needs, like medicine. There is never any excuse for physically abusing someone. Often emotional abuse occurs before physical violence begins.

The consequences can have different degrees of severity. The more severe the abuse is, the more of an effect it will have on your mental health. The longer abuse occurs the more effect it can have on your health. The effects of abuse linger long after the abuse stops. The most severe consequences of physical abuse in close relationships are when someone murders their spouse or partner.

Having to witness abuse is also abuse. Children who witness abuse in their homes experience the same negative effect and as if they have been abused.

It is physical abuse when someone:

  • Threatens to hurt you or others in your home.
  • Threatens to hurt themselves.
  • Threatens you with facial expressions or clenched fists.
  • Threatens you with a weapon such as a knife or something that could be used as a weapon.
  • Says they want to kill you or display behaviour that could take your life (choke you).
  • Grabs you to prevent you from leaving.
  • Intentionally destroys your things.
  • Hurts you in any manner.
  • Forces you to take medicine.
  • Prohibits you from taking necessary medicines

If you want assistance, you can contact someone at Bjarkarhlíð in Reykjavík or Bjarmahlíð in Akureyri. They specialize in abuse support. It doesn‘t matter how long it has been since the abuse occurred. If the abuse occurred recently it is a good idea to get an injury report at the hospital emergency room. This report can be used if you decide to press charges due to the abuse.

Everyone, both adults and children, can also talk to someone at 1717 (Red Cross helpline).

Anna‘s story

Unusually high proportion of women who seek help at the women‘s shelter are of foreign origin. Their abusers often take advantage of the women’s lack of social network and supply them with false information. Anna from Russia shares her experience with an Icelandic husband who abused her. After she looked for help, she left him and started a new life with her children.

Sonja‘s story

Sonja shares with us details from her relationship with a man who abused her. Her experience began with emotional abuse and lead to physical abuse. No one in Sonja‘s life knew of the abuse. Sonja left the relationship after 18 years. Today she is no longer afraid.

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Áslaug

Áslaug is in a stormy relationship and is constantly setting new boundaries for her spouse’s preferable behavior but senses the boundaries repeatedly moving. After she became pregnant the situation has only become worse.

Áslaug knows well that she is no angel herself and often does something that she knows will make him angry. Áslaug has also often yelled herself and pushed him to get out of violent situations. He has never hit her but sometimes holds her stuck and throws things.

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Available resources

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Bjarkarhlíð

Bjarkarhlíð is a center for people who have experienced abuse. There you get all the support and counseling you need in one place. All assistance is on your terms.

Bjarmahlíð in Akureyri

Bjarmahlíð is a center for people who have experienced abuse. There you get all the support and counseling you need in one place. All assistance is on your terms.

Women's Shelter in Reykjavík

The Women‘s Shelter offers counseling and a safe place to stay for any woman who has experienced abuse.