- Consent means giving consent for sex or sexual acts of one’s own free will.
- If someone does something sexual to you without your consent it is sexual abuse.
- Even if you are in a relationship, you still have to give consent.
Giving consent of one’s own free will is necessary in sex and sexual activities. Anything else is sexual abuse.
The General Penal Code of Iceland, Art. 194.
Any person who has sexual intercourse or other sexual relations with a person without their consent shall be guilty of rape and shall be imprisoned for a minimum of 1 year and a maximum of 16 years.
You CANNOT give consent of your own free will if:
You must give consent every single time. Just because you give consent once, it doesn’t mean that you have given consent for other instances.
There always needs to be consent. You can always change your mind and withdraw your consent. You also need to give consent even when you are in a relationship.
To show interest in someone is not the same as giving consent. To go on a date with someone, flirt or pay them attention is not consent.
Consent for kisses, sex, and sexual acts is incredibly important and necessary so that everyone feels good. It is therefore never OK to pester someone or coerce them into sex, whether we are in a relationship or not. In order to be sure that there is consent it is important to:
In some situations, it is not OK for someone to have sex with you even though you give consent. That happens when the other person has power over you and you have to trust them. Examples of that sort of relationship are:
Think of getting consent for sex like offering someone a cup of tea. Would you ever force another person to drink a cup of tea?
Overstepping a persons sexual boundaries is assault.